You’ve got the perfect glitz and glam outfit picked out, now here are some tips to make you really shine out in the dating field!
Give online dating a go.
In the hustle and bustle of modern life, there isn’t as much time to go to the soda fountain or to croon under your crush’s window. At the click of a mouse, you are able to see hundreds if not thousands of potential matches in one sitting. If you’re worried about the stigma of starting your relationship online, don’t be. Almost everyone is doing it – literally.
With technology, most people have the ability to respond instantly to a phone call or text. When your potential date sends you a casual message, respond within a 5-30 minute window, or else run the risk of looking uninterested. Since we have access to multiple ways to contact someone, a reasonably prompt reply is courteous, but try to reply with more than “K” or “lol” (which is so 2013, anyway).
Figure out chemistry in the first few minutes.
A recent study shows that all it takes is 15 minutes to decide if you and your date have chemistry. 31 percent of men and women agree that that’s all it takes. So relax and keep that in mind. Worried that your next date might leave during your night out if he or she isn’t feeling it? Take a breath, because Match.com found that only 12 percent of singles would actually leave a date before the night was over.
Respect is key.
Chivalry is not dead! Both men and women should always remember to be kind and courteous during a date. Open the door for each other, offer to pick up the tab, and show your gratitude for sharing an evening with an interesting person. If you feel like you are both on the same page after seeing each other for a while, don’t be afraid to bring her a bouquet of roses before a date, and don’t forget to say thank you after a wonderful evening.
It’s okay. We’ve all been nervous at the beginning of the date, finding ourselves full of nervous energy and maybe a bit of anxiety. Here’s a quick test to see if you’re prone to over-talking: Does silence freak you out? Did you raise your hand in second grade before the teacher could ask a question? Do you need throat lozenges by the end of the day because you’ve talked so much? If you answered “yes” to any of these, it might benefit you to create a list of questions to ask your date to get to know him or her a little bit better. Try to get through the list by the end of the night. If you want a second date, make sure that he or she can get in a few words. Conversation goes both ways, so save the monologue for when you take your date to a play.
Turn off your cell phone and turn on conversation.
In this age of technology, an easy fix to nervousness can be to look at your cell phone. Your date is a few minutes late? Let’s check Instagram. A lull in conversation? Let’s see what’s on Facebook. Your date talked about his ingrown nail before the drink order could be placed? Let’s hit the ground running with your online dating profile again. Avoid the temptation to plug into technology by plugging into conversation. You opted to spend some time with the individual in front of you, so talk to them. If it doesn’t go well, then…
Honesty is (always) the best policy.
If your date is cute and dressed to the nines but the conversation isn’t there, cut them loose. A recent survey found that 52 percent of singles think it’s best to politely tell your date if you are not interested, and we agree. Nobody wins when someone is dishonest, and since you never know when you’ll accidentally run into him or her again, it’s best not to burn any bridges. Remember: manners matter.
“To thine own self be true.”
Even though Hamlet’s Polonius died soon after adding this adage to the English language, it’s some solid advice. If you love to dress up at comic conventions and spend most of your paycheck at the bookstore, your date is probably not a match made in Heaven if they spend most of the evening talking about how much they hate reading and nerd culture. Let your true self shine–be you–and let your date decide from there. As fun as acting can be, leave it to the theatrical professionals and be honest about who you are, what you like, and what are your deal breakers. This will save you a lot of heartache in the long run.
The Internet has made dating new and interesting people easier than ever. With true love the likely outcome of many online couples, we hope by following these guidelines you’ll experience the same fate.