4 Traits Of a High Maintenance Partner

You may have heard the term “high maintenance” before when referring to the behavior of a romantic partner.  Many people know that being “high-maintenance” is associated with a negative connotation but aren’t sure exactly what it means.


Perhaps you’ve been wondering if you yourself may be high maintenance. In order to know, you should take a look at what the traits are of people who are considered high maintenance.  Then you can decide if you think you have these traits.


Unwilling To Be Flexible


Some partners are so set on having their way that they are unwilling to bend their points of view or actions.  Whether it be something as simple as deciding what to have for dinner or planning for their wedding, they aren’t willing to negotiate with their significant other or reach a compromise.


The problem with this is that it starts to create a distance and make the other partner feel like their opinions and thoughts aren’t valued.  Continuing down this road will likely lead to the relationship ending since there isn’t a balance between them.


Needs Constant Reassurance


A high-maintenance partner is notorious for needing constant reassurance about everything from their physical appearance to their personal achievements.


People who are high maintenance are often that way because of a lingering insecurity and therefore depend on others to make them feel confident about themselves.


Gets Angry Easily


Rather than talking through issues calmly and trying to reach an agreement together high maintenance partners assume that they are correct.  They are unwilling to accept that there are two sides of every argument and perhaps they even have something that they could learn.


It’s important to talk through issues and accept that even though you may not always agree, you should make an effort to at least understand. Otherwise, you’re shutting the other partner out.  They will eventually grow bitter and feel undervalued.




High-maintenance means that you are often demanding of others and feel a sense of entitlement.  Rather than expecting your partner to do everything for you, you should be willing to also do nice things for them as well.


Try to find a balance between doing acts of service for each other rather than always being the one to receive.




When you let your emotions get the best of you without trying to control your emotional fluctuations you are expecting too much from your partner.


Even though it’s normal to have a variety of emotions throughout the day, it’s important to try to control yourself as an adult.  Giving into every emotion that you have isn’t only exhausting for yourself, but for those that you are with throughout the day, particularly your partner.

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